To all those people who are trying to navigate the World by going against the grain…
If you’re anything like me, you’ve faced criticism, judgement, loss, failure, frustration, fear, physical and mental illness, and deep emotional turmoil, simply for just trying to be yourself. For most of us, going against the grain isn’t a choice, it’s who we were born to be.
I’m sure life would be far easier if I just conformed and embraced the life that other people expected for me. So why don’t I just do that? Because it’s just not that simple. Much like my sexuality, I literally have no control over it. And the more I try to deny it, the more unhappy I become.
Newsflash: We are not all meant to be the same as each other anyway!
I recently experienced some deeply upsetting judgements about the way I choose to navigate my life. I was called selfish, lazy and had deeply hurtful comments made about my ability as a parent and husband. This was a huge and unexpected blow for me, but was also the absolute clarity that I needed to keep going and pushing past other people’s limited beliefs in me.
Fortunately, I’ve learned enough about myself, and through Human Design, have come to accept myself as someone who isn’t meant to fit in. As a Projector, I’m a low energy being. And that’s been the hardest and most important aspect of my being to accept. I don’t have the energy to keep up with the rest of the World, I don’t have the energy to be a helicopter parent, and I don’t have the energy balance everything that life throws at me.
But I do have a different perspective on the World, I do have super levels of efficiency, I do have ideas and wisdom that can challenge the ‘norms’ that society has put on us, and I do have the ability to succeed in my own way. In fact, the beauty of being a Projector is that success is guaranteed so long as I follow my own personal design, and not that of another. I’ve spent my whole life acting as a Manifesting Generator only to keep becoming unwell, burnt out, stressed and depressed. Because I do not harbour this level of energy. This is simply not who I am meant to be.
I am not here to ride in anybody else’s lane. I carve my own way and I’m so deeply proud of myself for not giving up, even when giving up seemed like the only viable option. I’m not out of the woods yet, things can still be scary at times, but I’m filled with love, support and optimism from the people who believe in me the most, the people who believe in me even when I don’t believe in myself. These are my people, and I love you and thank you. Because you give me the confidence to believe in myself.
We don’t have to understand people to be kind to them. We don’t have to believe in their dreams to support them. We don’t have to place our expectations onto others. We can still lift each other up even when we’re not in agreement. We can love, honour and respect each other even when we’re not in alignment.
So to all those weirdos, oddballs, creatives, dreamers, path carvers and visionaries - I salute you, because you make this World a more interesting place. You open people’s eyes and hearts with your courage, your openness and your light. Keep doing what you do, because you were gifted this life for a reason. Don’t waste it conforming!