For some reason, the common belief in the World seems to be that we should pick a lane and stay in it.
From a very young age we’re taught to think about what we want to be when we grow up. When we hit 14 we’re asked to choose an educational path that will lead us to our desired career. The same at 16, the same at 18. Then when we hit adulthood we get asked where we see ourselves in 5 years, and other such nonsense. We constantly have it drilled into us that we should try to control what our future holds for us and do everything within our power to manipulate the outcome.
I don’t know about you, but I’m 38 and still haven’t quite figured out what I want to be when I grow up!
There’s a staggering statistic that says less than 50% of people actually work in their field of study. I too am one of those statistics.
So why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to set this life path in stone? When truly, nobody knows what’s around the corner.
I believe that this mentality comes from fear…
Fear of not being good enough
Fear of not having enough
Fear of what others will think
Fear of not keeping up with others
Fear of missing out
Fear of not being in control
Fear of rejection
Fear of failure
As an adult, I’ve never really associated myself with fear. I remember attending a spiritual development course many years ago, and being shown some images of things that were supposed to provoke fear. I couldn’t resonate with any of them. It’s only now that I’m starting to unpick my subconscious fears and bring them to the surface, that I can start to recognise what I’d been suppressing for so many years. And it’s a very eye opening experience about what’s truly holding me back.
The truth is, even when you think you’ve got your shit together, there’s always more to learn. We are constantly evolving, meaning that what we believed about ourselves all those years ago when we were trying to set our life plans, may not be relevant for us today.
Ask yourself this…
Is what I’m doing today still in alignment with who I am today?
Remember, when we’re asked what we want to be when we grow up, the answer is usually very simple. Most people just want to be happy.
Are you happy?
If what you’re doing in the World is no longer lighting you up, then you have the power to change that. You just need to break through those fears.
Life is an evolution. It’s not static, it’s not a destination, it’s entirely yours to do whatever you want with.
If you need some support breaking through the fear and making your World a happier place, please reach out. I have some capacity to welcome new Personal Development Mentoring clients.
Find your happy.